By Rainbow Browning
Holding a grudge only hurts yourself. Studies show that bitter people and non-caring people are more likely to have high blood pressure and could die from a heart disease rather than more forgiving people. C-protein is very important and has caused heart diseases and strokes. When we have negative feelings and we hold on to them for an extended amount of time it releases more C-protein into the bloodstream increasing the likelihood of heart disease. Also, those feelings of resentment might cause someone to go into a state of depression or anxiety.
Holding a grudge is holding you back from healing and getting over whatever is hurting you, the healing process is one of the most important processes when experimenting with something that gives you the negative feelings you’re holding on to. Letting go of a grudge or just a bad feeling, in general, relieves a lot of stress and discomfort that you are holding on to. It might seem like holding someone to what they’ve done in the past and how you feel about it is what you’re supposed to do or you need to but is it worth putting yourself at stress? Holding a grudge means you’re living with anger constantly, even if it’s at the bottom of the surface.
Some people hold grudges for years, even things from childhood memory, others can let go of them after a healthy amount of time to process the feelings they are having. Holding a grudge is a very human and a common thing but it can be unhealthy in the long-term. A grudge takes on its own life so once you have a grudge it’s pretty hard to let go. Holding onto a grudge causes a feeling of anger or discomfort so trying to resolve the problem isn’t as easy as it sounds. Luckily, letting go of a grudge doesn’t mean you have to resolve the problem.
The best way to let go of a grudge is to take responsibility for your feelings. Learning to forgive might not be easy but taking responsibility is something that should come naturally if you honestly want to let go of something. Taking on this responsibility isn’t only going to help let go of this grudge, it will also relieve this anger, stress, and discomfort you might be feeling. Next time you find yourself holding a grudge just relax and choose your happiness over negative feelings.